12 Surprising Little-Known Facts About Our Wedding!

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Credits:

Photos – Shawn Marie Photography  Hair – Brittany Packer

Makeup – LeTitia Owens (mine) & D’Jai (bridesmaids & mom)


Every wedding is full of mishaps, craziness and the unexpected. Ours was no exception!

Here are a few fun, surprising, and little-known facts about our wedding day:

12. Got Petals?

I forgot the flower girls’s petals! Thankfully I realized it about an hour and a half before our ceremony started and our wedding planner, Brittani was able to work it out in time with a quick trip to the nearest store! Kroger came through in the clutch!

11. We Got Married In The Wrong Place!

Well, we were at the right venue but the ceremony was supposed to take place with Dex and I standing at the top of the steps, but somehow communication got crossed and well, we ended up doing the entire ceremony from the floor. I had to keep telling the producer in me to “let it go and focus on what matters” during the ceremony. #ProducerProblems

170305_27310. My Earrings Broke!

When I was leaving the house my original earrings fell out of my ear and broke so I borrowed a backup pair from Becca, one of my bridesmaids. Ironically, the first pair I had that broke were courtesy of Becca’s sister, Rachel who’d worn them in her own wedding 5 months prior!

The original earrings from Rachel

The original earrings from Rachel

9. The Best Last Minute Decisions

The three biggest last minute decisions we made just 1-3 weeks from our big day were whether or not we would have a wedding planner, videographer, and a photo booth. We ended up saying “yes” to all three and boy are we glad! They were all absolutely awesome! Here’s who we went with!

Wedding Planner – Brittani Owens, Regal Design & Events

VideographerOne Knot Weddings – check out our wedding recap video here

Photo BoothIt’s Your Night (they were also our DJ company, ask for Richie!)

8. A Double Celebration

My goddaughter turned 8 on our wedding day! So we decided to turn part of our reception into a birthday party for her! We surprised her with a cake, sash, and tiara. And of course she danced the night away! It was so sweet to see her little face light up. We loved getting to celebrate her big day while celebrating ours!

7. The First Person To Know Us Both

It was summer 2008 and my god brother, most commonly known as Trip Lee, and his label mates were heading out for their first tour. Because my god brother was on the tour and I was working on staff at my Dad’s church, I was able to secure our church as the first stop on their tour.

While I was working on my end to secure and work through all the details for our church, Dex was also preparing on his end for the same tour. Turns out he was their road manager for the summer! He ended up being my point of contact on some things related to the tour once the concert day arrived and that’s how we first met!

Dex lived in Kentucky at the time so we had basically no contact until Dex moved to Dallas 4 years later. It was then we ran into each other again at the same tour that first brought us together in 2008!

So Trip was officially the first person to know both me and Dex and he’s the reason Dex and I reconnected in 2012! Little did he (or any of us) know that years later his road manager would be marrying his god sister!

6. We’re Having a Baby!

Dex and I love kids! In fact, we had 11 kids in our wedding party! So when I realized how many of our friends were pregnant and attending our wedding, I decided to take a photo with them to congratulate them and also document this day for ourselves and all those unborn cuties in their bellies.

One of the Mommies was having contractions during the reception! Can you guess which one?! Her daughter was born just 4 days later! Dex and I went to visit the family once we got back from our honeymoon. It was pretty neat to see the baby in her parent’s arms just days after we saw her in her Mommy’s stomach at our wedding! We can’t wait to meet the rest of these little ones, yet to be born!

The Mommies to Be!

The Mommies to Be!

We Love The Kids!

We Love The Kids!

5. I Got Married in Jeans!

Because why not?! Really I wore them because it was raining so instead of showing up to the venue fully dressed, I wore my jeans and the top half of the dress (it was a two-piece). Once I arrived to the venue it was time to put the skirt on and well, I got the bright idea that the skirt could probably slip right over my jeans and no one would know. And this made the rebel in me happy so I left them on!

I had to take the jeans off during the reception tho cause I needed to be able to dance! Lol

4. She Made My Mouth Drop

I asked my best friend from college, Patricia to be one of my bridesmaids and after trying to work out her schedule, she decided it wasn’t going to work out, but she didn’t let that keep her from celebrating with us!

Patricia is in residency at a hospital in Baltimore, Maryland. She had a 24-hour shift the day before and the day after our wedding. On top of that, she’s a mother of 3 kids under 5 AND she has a husband who is a practicing doctor! Yet! She still found a way to fly in and make it to our ceremony! This is what sacrificial love looks like. I’m still blown away by her sacrificing so much to be there with us.

3. My “Something Blue” Gave Me The Blues

Just moments before the ceremony started, I realized in the chaos of the day somehow between leaving the house and arriving at the venue, I’d lost the ring my godsister, Chelsea let me wear as my “something blue.” I told her I’d lost it and her response showed me that I HAD to find this ring! It really meant a lot to her and it was a gift from her husband.

I felt terrible. I put an alert out and sent pictures of it to a few powers at be and then spent the rest of my time before the ceremony trying to talk myself out of letting the lost ring keep me from being present and enjoying my wedding day.

I was able to enjoy the ceremony and afterwards learned that no ring had been found anywhere they’d searched. Fast forward to the reception, it’s almost time for dancing and well, remember those jeans I had on? When I went to take them off in the bathroom, the ring flew out of the pocket! Yep! Those jeans. Thank you Jesus for the jeans!

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My Godsister Chelsea & Husband, Randall

2. The Most Surprising Dance of the Night!

My Papa danced with me! He didn’t even dance at his own daughter’s wedding. He said he started this tradition as a “granddaughters only” thing and since I was the first granddaughter to get married, I was Papa’s first wedding dance! It was such a sweet moment I will cherish forever.

1. The Most Unexpected of All

Our dear friends Trey & Niki flew in from Chicago to attend our wedding. Dex and I attended their wedding just 4 months earlier so wedding bliss was fresh for all of us! I learned later that the morning of our wedding, Trey’s mother suddenly and unexpectedly passed away. Despite this, they still chose to celebrate with us and I’m still in shock at their decision! Could you imagine?!

Life is often an uncomfortable mix of bitter and sweet, joy and pain.

And as lighthearted and joyful as the majority of this post has been, I specifically wanted to end with sharing about Niki & Trey because their pain is still real and felt now just 4 weeks removed from a day that will forever be sealed in their hearts, not just because of the celebration of our wedding, but also because it’s the day they learned they would never get to see their mother again.

Lets Do Something To Help

Would you take a moment to say a prayer for them and their family today?

If you’re up for it, you could even leave an encouraging note for them in the comments, I’ll make sure they receive every single one. Let’s love on them and anyone else around us who may be suffering today.

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Us with Trey & Niki

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”

– Romans 12:15 –

17 Comments
  • LoveEveryone
    September 20, 2017

    This was such a wonderful blog post! I love how detailed you are, but still to the point. Congrats on your marriage! I love the fact that the children had such a great time! I of course am leaving this comment for the people who lost their mother! May God bless their hearts! In Jesus’ name! Amen

  • Gay Woloschek
    April 29, 2017

    Congrats you two!

    Barb sent me the links to your rehearsal and wedding videos, and now this post! You guys are a beautiful couple and so alike and compatible. An FYI, I was under Marilyn Hickey’s teaching often at CFNI and loved her.

    Send me your new home address, so I can get a wedding gift to you. So glad I got to meet you Kandis. You were a beautiful bride and a perfect wife for Dex!

    Happy for you guys!!!
    Gay

  • Seagirlsmiles
    April 11, 2017

    Kandis & Dex:

    This Is Life! In real time. Ecstasy and sorrow. Laughter. Tears. Birth. Death. Marriage. New beginnings. Painful endings. Sacrifice. Comfort. Bitter. And. Sweet. This is life. What a gift God has given us. How blessed I feel to read the story of this incredible life of yours. Prayers. Thoughts. Love. Hugs. Gratitude for Trey & Niki and their family. – This. Is. LIFE y’all.

    Thank you Kandis & Dex for living and loving on purpose. My heart swells with hope.

    Thank you Holy Father for these beautiful lives.

  • Brittani Owens
    April 5, 2017

    Kandis,

    It was an absolute honor to be apart of your special day! I live for the rose pedal moments 😊! My heart’s desire is always to serve others and be a blessings during such an occasion! My heart was overwhelmed to hear nuggets of your love journey and hear accounts of God’s hand on you both as He orchestrated every step to your wedding day! You two are a blessing and I’m so excited to see what God has in store for you both! Niki and Trey are truly in my prayers. I pray God comfort them, along with their loved ones, during this time of loss.

    Laughs and Love,

    Brittani Owens

    • Ebony Combs
      April 9, 2017

      Brittani, I’ll be contacting you definitely. I’m a friend of Kandis’ and you come highly recommended. I’m going to need your help for our big day next summer/early fall.

  • Aletha M.
    April 4, 2017

    Thanks for sharing all these fun details with us! I look forward to watching the Lord continue to bless you and your husband. Prayers for Trey and Niki. May the Lord comfort them and shepherd their souls. It such a testimony of their love for you and trust in the Lord that they would still come. I know the Lord supplied them that day, every day since, and will continue to supply them!

  • Emonne
    April 4, 2017

    Gosh I love this post. So many thoughts and I’m glad you highlighted each unknown fact. Before I got to the very end my resounding thought was, “Yay you shared about the jeans!!!” and … “You found the blue ring!!!” *praise break* … and “Look at my baby girl!” and “Shoutout to the pregnant mamas, especially the one who had contractions at the wedding. Whew!”

    Last but not least, I will be sending Niki a prayerful text soon. I can’t imagine how difficult it was so celebrate and mourn all at the same time. Shows a lot of strength, commitment to fulfilling your word, and God’s peace that surpasses understanding.

    Love to all.

  • Ebony
    April 4, 2017

    Kandis, this was beyond dope! As a bride-to-be, I am so nervous and overwhelmed with planning the perfect day. Your beautifully imperfect day gave me so much peace in knowing it won’t be perfect, but perfect for my groom and I.

    I am sincerely going before God, praying for your resilient and loving friends. Losing a mother is a pain I pray I don’t come to know for some time now. I pray God’s comfort and love surround them each and every day, granting them a peace only he can provide. Their showing up is a true testament to their love for you and Dex.

    I pray you all have a blessed and prosperous marriage. Was it too early to want the ‘we’re pregnant’ headline to be true? Lol I can’t wait to see those precious little ones from you and Dex.

    Thanks for inspiring us with your love. I may need your wedding planner and venue. Lol

    Take care!

    Much love, Ebony

  • Chandra Matthews
    April 4, 2017

    Loved this post Kandis! It made me feel as if I were at the wedding with all the behind the scenes “footage” :) Your wedding day was beautiful! Aaron & I are so happy for the two of you!

    Prayer for Nikki & Trey: the choice you made to put your sorrow aside to show up for friends you love shows how selfless & Christ like you truly are (There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends John 15:13). Praying that God will strengthen, comfort and encourage you every time your heart aches and you need someone to lean on. I also pray that your memories of your loved one will always be vivid enough for you to feel them close when you need to. God bless you.

  • Barb Reese
    April 4, 2017

    We loved reading about the little mishaps that happened with the wedding. It was so beautiful and seemed like everything was just perfect. So funny to read about your jeans. :) We are so proud to say that we now have one son and two daughters. You are a great blessing to all of us and we are so thankful that God brought you and Dex together. You are both wonderful young people with hearts for serving God and we know he will use both of you in amazing ways to advance his kingdom.
    Nikki and Trey, you are in our prayers and we know the hurt is still there for you and we are praying God will catch all your tears and give you peace. It was so special that you still came to the wedding and that is amazing and shows the love you all have for each other which is a gift.
    Much love, Dad and Mama Reese

  • LaShelll
    April 4, 2017

    Praying for Niki & Trey. Kandis your verse said it best. REJOICE in the joy. Despite the passing of your loved one you two chose to rejoice in Dex & Kandis happiness. God is LOVE!

    Kandis thanks for sharing. I can’t recall a wedding that didn’t have something that wasn’t forgotten or didn’t go as planned. A recipe for a successful marriage. :)

  • Adrian
    April 4, 2017

    Trey and Nikki, I pray that God will give the both of you the continued strength and comfort that you so deservingly need. What an honorable sacrifice the two of you made. Only God can give back and reward this type of selfless faithfulness. We often say to friends that we’ll be there if they need us. Trey, you and Nikki took it to a whole different level. What a true and beautiful example. May God wipe your tears away and comfort your hurting hearts.

    Kandis, you’re amazing!

  • Tiffany Johnson
    April 4, 2017

    Hi Kandis-
    It was a joy watching you grow up while I attended your dad’s church. I am sincerely happy for you and your husband and wish you many blessings.

    Thanks for sharing your wedding story….

  • Mama Wan
    April 4, 2017

    It was a beautiful day and Kandis, you were, and are a beautiful bride (inside and out). I’m thankful for a wonderful son-in-love who loves the Lord first and then you. My prayers are with Trey and Niki at this time of loss. Thank you both for your sacrifice and genuine friendship to Kandis and Dex. True friends are a gift. Love to all of you. Mama Wan😘

  • Rita Miller
    April 4, 2017

    I love the tidbits you shared about your wedding. May you and your husband be richly blessed with love and peace and joy and prosperity throughout your journey of oneness and love together. Praying The Holy Spirit will bring comfort to your friends in their time of loss and grief. To God be the glory!

  • Mildred R. President
    April 4, 2017

    Kandis,

    Praying that God continues to wrap HIS arms around your friends Nikki and Trey. They have already shown such love for you and Dex and I know GOD will shower down HIS comfort upon them as they go through their journey of grief! GOD bless them both!!

    • alice
      April 5, 2017

      April 5, 2017

      It was a joy to see the wonderful photos of your wedding. As I read the

      postings, joy and sadness were realized. There was joy seeing the lives of two

      people join as one to continue their journey surrounded by family and friends.

      Conversely, there was sadness learning of the sudden loss of your friend’s

      mother. Please express to them my condolence. Expectantly, these are the

      moments and places in life where we ALWAYS find The LORD present and

      attendant.

      Grace and peace,
      alice

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